*Introduction to Strength Through Abuse

First off, this site is specifically for “Verbal/Mental Abuse between a husband and wife within a “Christian” marriage. If you are suffering from PHYSICAL abuse, that is beyond me and the scope of this site, I am unqualified and inexperienced in such matters. Please refer to Lundy Bancroft’s web- page, he has links for physically abused women and the steps she should take. Blessings to you.

My journey may seem a foolish one to most people, but I am trusting in the Lord’s word that say’s “He makes all things beautiful in His time”. The beauty may not be here on earth, or within my marriage; it just may be in the realms of heaven. But my God is faithful and true, in Him will I put my trust.

For those women who believe as I do, when the word says that God hates divorce- it means- He really does hate it. So instead of finding loop-holes, and contingencies for doing something God hates; let’s try and seek the Lord, in His word and by the strength of the Spirit to persevere THROUGH this marriage. For we know that All things work together for good, to them who love God, to them who are called according to His purposes.

There are people who are born in hostile environments and are persecuted for their faith. They have to lean on scripture and trust in the Lord to get them through their times of trials and testing. They will have their reward. So when we are suffering through times of trials and testing, let’s get the same mindset to allow the Lord to carry us through, then we too may receive a reward for our obedience and stedfastness.

You have heard that it has been said, You shall love your neighbor, and hate your enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.

That is the LAST thing the flesh wants to do but that is the first thing the Lord would have us do! In and of ourselves this would be a monumental, if not, impossible task. But we can take God at His word and proclaim…I CAN do ALL things THROUGH CHRIST who strengthens me. Pray the word, claim the word, live the word- have a victorious life even in the midst of pain.

When the apostle Paul was in chains and house bound in prison by the psycho emperor, Nero, what was his reaction? Was it an escape plan, was it depression, was it rebellion? No, he turned to the Lord and used his time there to encourage others, and bringing people to the Lord. To this day, 2000 years later, we can still rejoice in the fruit of this man’s obedience when we open up the epistles. Let’s take that example even when we are forbidden to leave the house, or have other punishments or restrictions placed on us, our husbands may mean it for evil, but God can use it for good-if we let Him.

I have walked this journey for 21 years, there are times when I have fallen at the feet of Jesus begging him to take this cup from me. There are times when I see the victorious fruit of His work in my life and the lives of my children. There are times of darkness and confusion- wondering what in the world am I doing this for?! There are times when I can almost see the heavenly Kingdom and the new life to come, which encourages my heart to persevere in this fallen and temporal world.

Romans 8:13

 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.

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You are free to go through the “Categories” in any order you wish but I prepared them in this order:

1.Introduction

2.Abuse Profile (gathered from various sites)

3. Counseling with an Abuser (gathered from various sites)

4. Grounding our Relationship with our Lord

5. Persecution our response

6.Thanksgiving

7. Not Over, Under, Around but Through

8. The Authoritarian and Your Role Part 1

9. The Authoritarian and Your Role Part 2

9. Prayer Journal- Husband, Sons, Daughters

10. Family Unity-Love, Laugh, Listen- (coming soon)

 

 

Blessings upon you on this journey Through Abuse.

 

The contents within this site are directed to those who have a relationship with the LORD Jesus Christ our Savior. It is only through Him and the work of the Holy Spirit can we walk “Through” this journey.